Mom, Dad please leave!
Fariha Jamil , Lahore: Aug 1 2008
Made Popular Aug 2 2008

Mom, Dad please leave!
Mom, dad… I am sorry but you have to leave! I mean why do I have to tell you this? You should understand how you are perturbing our lives… she has to meet friends, look after the kids, make food and then she should look after both of you as well? I am tired at night when I come home from work… I need to have sometime with my family, we have to go out, the kids need time and with you two around, nothing can be normal! Can’t you see… then you guys are sick every now and then… it’s too much for me to handle!

Why? What’s wrong with old homes? There are so many people living in there. The management take care of them, there are people to look after you, what is the big deal? And then what do you think are these places for… for people like you of course! I will be sending you money, you just have to call… now please, this is done…

What? Wwwwait! Now don’t quote the Quran to me! I know what God says, in fact, you have told me those verses so many times that I know them by heart now!

“And treat your parents with kindness; if either of them or both reach old age in your presence, do not say “Uff”* to them and do not rebuff them, and speak to them with the utmost respect. And lower your wing humbly for them, with mercy, and pray, “My Lord! Have mercy on them both, the way they nursed me when I was young.”

And yes, this one as well,

“And We ordained upon man concerning his parents; his mother bore him enduring weakness upon weakness... be thankful to Me and to your parents…”

And your much loved saying of the Prophet

“One who displeases the parents, he has displeased Allah. One who angers both his parents he has angered Allah.”

…I know he said paradise lies under the feet of your mother! And yes your favorite one: one day a man asked him

“Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?'’ and He said, “Your mother, your mother, your mother, then your father…”

I know, I know, I know this stuff! But I can’t ruin my life for the reward of the hereafter… who knows if there is any hereafter? I cant turn this life into hell for the heaven which I don’t even know of! You have told me these religious jargons numerous times and had they been good enough, we would not have so many old homes in the world! And you guys are not the only people going there…. Man! Now don’t gimme that look as if I am being really unfair to you or as if I have committed a great sin! I am thinking for your best because I love you!

Now shall we? That’s better, phew… thank you!
Mom, Dad please leave!

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Megha
New Delhi, India
Yes, That is what is happening nowadyas! Old parents are just becoming a burden for the fast moving generations of today! but what they don’t understand is that these parents are the strong pillars which can provide us the support nedded for our lives! But, you know what, when you point fingers at the daughter-in-law for doing so, you make a mistake! Because, according to me the biggest mistake lies with the son, who could be so stupid to make his parents leave, just on hearing his wife’s words!

I have also got married, barely 5 months ago! And I know what is it like having elders around you! With their experience and love, I feel confident of running my married life in an appropriate manner!
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Fariha Jamil
Lahore, Pakistan
Indeed! I feel this is the sheer bad luck of a person if he does so, however, our world continues to go thorugh moral degeneration... elders are indeed a blessing and i fell the older they grow, the more they become useless to us and we want to discard them!

(btw, there is somthing wrong with me accessing your page! i cant give comments there! I am brimming with comments on ur wonderful new story and there is some technical issues.... or may be my connection has gone mad!)
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Megha
New Delhi, India
Well, yes there have been some troubles with posting comments :-)))
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Ramesh Balam
Pune, India
Parents are living gods. I can’t see the Invisible God who gave me this life. But I do see the ones who brought me on this mother earth. I bow down to touch their feet and seek their blessings. They are a burden to some, but so is life, to some.
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Fariha Jamil
Lahore, Pakistan
Surely unlucky are those who cannot love and take care of them... btw Ramesh, are u in police? i mean is this ur pic?
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It is our indulgence in pleasures for our self which leads to such a situation.

It is the basic problem due to our desires for worldly pleasure which overtake the responsibilities and duties which we must do.
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Fariha Jamil
Lahore, Pakistan
Thank u very much for your comments sir, i always look forward to them :)

I pray that this happens to no parents in the world...

I feel the one who cannot be grateful to his parents or love them, he cant be grateful to God or any other person...

Once it happend in the times of Prophet (PBUH) that there was battle and people were gahering to participate. There was a man who wanted to take part but since his mother was sick the Prophet (PBUH) did not allow him to do so saying, ”Go and serve your mother; that is your jehad (strife in the cause of God).”

I love this incident as the rights of parents are considered greater than saving one’s land or faith if the situation demands :)
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Ramesh Balam
Pune, India
The picture is mine. I am not in police force. For a while I served in Indian Army and rose to become a Major, which is supposed to be senior to a district collector in rank and status. Presently, I am an H.R. consultant and an astrologer specialising in faith healing. I write love - lorn poems and articles on burning issues.
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Fariha Jamil
Lahore, Pakistan
O wow! It is very interesting. I also worked in HR in the training section for a few years. Now i have become a wanderer... lol
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Leena
Kolkata, India
The bottom picture brings tears to my eyes. This is a sorry state of affairs. Children shun their elders cruelly and do not remember the sacrifices that they have made for them.

However, I would like to point out that there are some parents who are very possesive about their children and do not let them lead smooth marital lives.
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Fariha Jamil
Lahore, Pakistan
Thanks for visiting Leena. Yes, i agree that some parents are unfair to their children esp. in the context you mentioned.

There are parent’s rights over children and vise versa. Particularly children once they grow up have the right to marry or live with their spouse however they chose to, but at the same time, the rights of the parents should be exercised fully.
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Sasmita
pune, India
More or less all are subject to commit this mistake in the young age and also face this problem in their old age. Very true picture of old age problem is presented. We are too busy for ourselves that there is no time, even to think about our old parents. We have become too sick and materialistic in our own world.
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Fariha Jamil
Lahore, Pakistan
Yes Sasmita, we are all ’lost sheep’ bahhhhhhhhh bahhhhhhhhhhhh

I hope we find the way bak before its too late.....
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